Friday, November 27, 2026 · 3:00 pm New York time

Active Self-Constriction Clearing: The Relationship You Still Can’t Get Over, the Hurt You Still Can’t Forgive, the Old Role You Keep Falling Back Into — Each One May Be Held in Place by a Vow You Made in a Moment of Fear or Overwhelm, Built to Keep Capturing Your Power and Your Will Long After That Moment Passed. We Will Revoke These Vows and Bring Your Power Home to the Present

Deciding to let go is not enough when part of you is still bound by a promise that was built to outrank every decision you would make afterward. A vow is a chain to the past, and it is still pulling on the power and the will you need to heal, to love and to create today. We will clear the vows that chain you to relationships, loyalties, hurts and old versions of yourself that are already over.

Is there a relationship that ended years ago and still has a hold on you? A hurt you have tried to forgive more than once? A family role you swore you would never play, and keep playing anyway?

Have you grown, changed and done the work, only to snap back into an old version of yourself the moment you go home, or the moment a certain person calls?

You may have bound yourself to it.

What a vow really is

A vow is not just a belief, and it is much stronger than a promise. It is an act of active self-constriction — a commitment made with tremendous emotional force, usually in fear, in overwhelm or in a religious setting, that captures your own power and your own will and puts them under control.

And it is made to last. A vow is the part of you that says: even when this is over, I want to make sure that a week from now, a year from now, ten years from now, I am still holding myself this way. I will never let go of you. I will never forgive this. Till death do us part. I will be nothing like my father. Never again.

That moment ended. The lifetime ended. The vow kept going, exactly as it was designed to.

A vow is not a leftover or a faded imprint. It is still being done. Long after the circumstance has passed and the context that created it is gone, it is still working — still gripping, still holding your power and your will in place, every day.

It is like a taut rope running from that moment to this one. Part of your power is still tied to the other end — still loyal, still guarding, still fighting a battle that ended long ago. You are trying to live your life now with only part of your power and will, because the rest is still chained to the past.

Over the past 10 to 15 years of client sessions, my guidance has shown me again and again that certain kinds of self-restriction are not ordinary karma or ordinary spiritual programming. They are literally vows — a form of yoking stronger even than other forms of karma, and one that can make or break our ability to heal. I have kept an ongoing list of the forms they take, now 96 categories, and I made a commitment to offer clearings of them regularly. This clearing focuses on the vows that chain you to the past.

A single category is never just one vow. Each one may contain millions of repetitions — taken again and again over many lifetimes, inherited from our lineage, and repeated in our subconscious as self-fulfilling prophecies, lifetime after lifetime. Each repetition adds to the pain, the damage, the stuckness and the self-constriction. In this clearing, we will revoke every repetition of these vows that you carry.

In this clearing, we will revoke the vows that chain you to old relationships, old hurts and old versions of yourself — every repetition of them that you carry — and clear the situations, relationships and underlying reasons that created them and still hold them in place, so you can take back the power and the will they have been capturing.

What we will clear

Vows that keep love out of your life

• Past-life “till death do us part” and wedding vows, which can bind you to painful relationship patterns from other lifetimes and keep you from attracting a healthy relationship in this one

• Past-life vows of celibacy and abstinence, which can keep a partner from finding you, or keep intimacy from feeling safe, in this lifetime

• Vows of aloneness — I’m better off on my own

• Vows to block your own relationship happiness, so that love keeps stopping just short

• Closing and guarding the heart — I was hurt so badly before that I cannot, and will not, let anyone in now. You hold your heart back from love, because being vulnerable again feels more dangerous than being alone

Vows that keep you in what isn’t working

• Vows to stay in relationships and situations that do not serve you

• Vows not to let go — of a person, a family or a loyalty — long after it stopped serving you

• Vows not to change — change means risk, and it is safer to stay with what I know than to risk the unknown, even if the unknown would be better

• Giving up — on love, on a dream — and never taking that decision back

Reactive vows, which draw closer the very thing they were made to keep away

A strong emotional reaction means you are still bound to the thing you are reacting against. These vows were made in that kind of reaction, and instead of keeping it out of your life, they keep bringing it back.

• “I will never forgive this,” vows of revenge, and holding on to the pain

• “I will be nothing like my mother, my father, my family,” which keeps you reacting to them instead of responding to your own life

• “Never again” and “over my dead body”

• Protection vows that keep you braced against suffering that has not happened

What we will reveal & anchor

Each vow captures and suppresses a tremendous amount of your personal power. When we revoke the vow, and clear the relationships and situations that created it, that locked-up energy is freed and returned to you. If you have felt that you don’t have enough energy to heal, to manifest or to make the changes you want, this is often why: your power is bound up in past situations. And because this is karma clearing, we will reach those places not only in this life, but across hundreds of past lives.

• The energy locked in these vows returned to you — power and will available for healing, manifesting and change now

• The ability to let go of what is finished, with love and without loss of yourself

• Peace with old hurts, so they stop drawing the same pain back into your life

• Relationships complete where they are meant to be complete, and your heart free to attract a healthy relationship in this life

• Freedom to change and become who you are now, not who you were or who you were told to be

• Responding to your life now, instead of reacting to the past

This clearing can also be done separately for you. In the individual version, I take this same clearing deeper for you — tuning in to your own energy, finding the blocks unique to you, and clearing them — plus a bonus clearing of the entities you are carrying now and the underlying issues that allowed them in. You receive a full personal report, typically 7 to 8 pages: your specific blocks on each point of this clearing, the vows that came up for you, the entities that were cleared, and a personalized action step plan to ground it all into real, tangible change in your life.